This means creating a dedicated place for family and friends to connect and remember your loved one.
A Consistent Place of Healing
In our modern society, people aren't given enough time to grieve their losses. The pressures of work, even the simple emotional need to ‘be busy,’ often bring the bereaved back into the ‘real’ world far too soon.
Also, many families are choosing to scatter the cremated remains of their loved one in a favorite place; Many choose the ocean or some other place in nature. While that may seem fitting at the time, it means that you do not have a consistent place to connect with the memories of the person you loved so dearly. We're not saying that to do so is wrong - Far from it. We are, however, saying that such a decision needs careful consideration and deliberation.
Having a permanent place - in a cemetery, mausoleum, or cremation garden - that can be visited regularly by family and friends, is important to some. It becomes a focal point of memorialization, and gives everyone a special place to go to remember your loved one, or to commemorate important occasions. It can help to make a birthday or anniversary less painful. Carefully consider your options - Don't rush to a decision. Consider everyone involved.
A permanent place to reflect on your loved one becomes a way of connecting to a family's past. Visiting the resting place of grandparents or great-grandparents may provide children with an anchor to their personal history. It is a connection to the past, to love shared. It truly honors the relationship you still have – and will always have – with that person.